9 TYPES OF PEOPLE YOU NEED IN YOUR LIFE

The truth of life is that in most cases there are the people around us that make us inexpressibly happy. Sure, it’s our family and those people who understand and accept us no matter what. They all are close to and very dear to our heart so spending time with them always makes us extremely happy. But apart from that any person that you happen to meet on your way makes their own contribution to your happiness without even knowing that. So in order to enjoy all the colors of your happiness you need to have various types of people in your life. I have identified 9, here they are.

1. Role model

It is great to have a person in your life who would be a role model for you so that you keep improving yourself. I’m not saying about jealousy, by no means. You just know a person who is, to your mind, really awesome and you want to have some features of character or some life principles you would also like to have. This is a good motive to be more professional at what you do, look after yourself better, start taking dancing classes or whatever.

2. The one to encourage

There are such special people that inspire and encourage us to live our lives to the fullest. If you are lucky to have your encourager than you will always know how special, strong, beautiful and just amazing you are. Such people make us move forward, reach goals and fight for our dreams.

3. Your any time rescue

It is the most precious feeling when you know that there is a person (or few) who will come to help no matter what. The situation may be of any type but the point is that you don’t feel awkward calling them and asking to give you a ride because your car went broken. Most probably you will be lectured on how great it is to have you as a friend (jokingly, of course) but you will be safely brought home. And next time when something goes wrong you won’t get a refuse either. And I’m sure you will be ready to act the same in return.

4. Good listener

As a flood of problems and worries catches you up, sometimes it is the best remedy to talk to someone who would hear you out. You don’t need any advice or help, just to talk to that person and not to see judgment in their eyes. If you have such a person, you have to value them.

5. A soul mate

My experience and observations show that as a rule each person has only one soul mate, though having numerous friends apart from them. A soul mate is more than just a friend, this person understands all your feelings and thoughts no matter how confusing they may sound to others. Actually, you would voice them only to your soul mate, wouldn’t you? You may relax and be yourself in their presence, silence is never a burden when you are together and this is just fantastic.

6. The big brother

Every woman is to have a man friend in her life which would mean friendship only without romantic feelings from each side. The stereotype persuades us that friendship between a man and woman doesn’t exist so you may try to prove it wrong. It is a very nice feeling to know that he will protect you as if your elder brother and you can always have a sincere conversation together finding out more about male and female nature.

7. A man of wisdom

You have many really smart people around you but it is not an easy task to find a wise person. This is not about age, position or amount of misfortunes gone through, this is an ability to give a good advice which you would really take into consideration or follow. If you find such a person this means that your vision of life and life principles coincide and you will surely go through any challenge that stands in your way together.

8. Who keeps you accountable

Don’t confuse it with the person who usually encourages you. You share your goals and dreams with each other, build plans and discuss the possibilities. Once in a while you meet or have a phone conversation inquiring about the progress. This is also a kind of motivation for you to go on and make progress.

9. Having common career

The sphere of professional realization is very important in life of every person and it usually takes most of our time. It requires much of attention, pains and simply time. It is hard not to talk about it so when your family doesn’t have a clue of what you do at work, they won’t understand you. That’s why there should be a person you can freely talk about your job with and this may be your friend busy in the same sphere or a co-worker. Anyway, such people can support you when you are going through a tough period in your career or share your joy of success.
You can never predict what people will be in your life, they will come in and leave, changing you and bringing you happiness. The most important thing is that they must be there for you when you need them the most. Have you already found your special friends? What’s type of people make you happy? 

8 CHOICES YOU CAN MAKE TODAY THAT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER

The history of free men is never written by chance, but by choice – their choice.
~ Dwight D. Eisenhower

The above quote is one of my favorites. The direction of our lives is determined by the choices we make everyday. They accumulate and add up to our ultimate destiny.
The choices we make are the result of character. You can have a wonderful personality – you can be full of wit and possessed of agreeable manners – but without character, your glib tongue will only succeed in getting you into trouble. The quality of the choices you make will determine the quality of your life.
So what are you choosing? Does your life look the way you want it to? Or do you find yourself living in reaction to a series of tough situations, being tossed around from hazard to hazard like a pinball? The kind of life you experience is really up to you, and it starts with the quality of your choices.
Here are eight choices you can make – choices that will create for you a life of abundance and prosperity in all areas.
1. Choose to grow personally. This sounds simple but many people only wish to grow personally. They never choose to grow by taking action, such as actually exercising, saving more money etc. Make a decision today to be a person who is on the never ending journey of personal growth.
2. Choose to become balanced spiritually, emotionally and physically. Our lives are best when we have these three major areas in balance. Spend some time cultivating your spirituality, becoming emotionally healthy, and physically fit.
3. Choose to always treat others right. We come across all sorts of people, many of whom will treat us poorly. We can choose to treat them right, no matter how they treat us. When they lie, we will tell the truth. When they cheat, we will play by the rules. We may get the short end of the stick some times, but in the long-run we will win. And most importantly, we will be able to sleep at night.
4. Choose to break a bad habit. Take the biggie first. Tackle it head on. If you don’t know what it is, ask a friend. Then spend every effort you can to break that habit. Forget about the others, as you will get to them later. Stop smoking, get out of debt, lose your excess weight. Exercise the power to choose!
5. Choose to work smarter. Many people I work with feel like they are out of balance. One of the first things I do is try to find out how much time they are wasting at work, which makes them work longer, which throws the rest of their life into chaos. Getting your work done by diligently working in the time you have will free your life up extraordinarily.
6. Choose to see your work as a way to help others, and not a way to make money. If you put your heart into helping others, the money will most assuredly come. Spend time helping others grow and your finances will grow with it.
7. Choose to sow more than you reap. There are many takers in this world, but our lives will be better as we become givers. The world will become better as we become givers. Give away your time, give away your money, give away your love.
8. Choose to get home for dinner more often. The family is the most important group of people you will ever belong to. Make a decision today to grow in your relationship with your parents, siblings, spouse and children. This one choice you will never regret.
By choosing the content of your character, you can choose the type of results you see in your life. Why not make a commitment to yourself today to write your own history. By consciously choosing the most constructive actions available to you, you can shape the course of your life.

THE NECESSARY PIECES FOR SUCCESS

I've always tried to write about the pursuit of "success"
as a holistic, balanced concept. To me, success is that
mystical, ever-changing mix  of "enough" money and lots of
toys, a bit of respect and recognition, good health and
healthy relationships, mixed with enough meaningful work to
keep me challenged without interfering with my hobbies and
play-time. I think of success as a moving and very personal
"target." And I like to think that, from time to time, I've
had more than a few glorious glimpses of the real thing!
Recently, we've focused on a Summer of Success, and now
we're moving into a 90-day opportunity to Fall Forward.
I've always liked an incremental model for achieving big
goals. Most of the "big" things I've tried to do over the
years seemed to either elude me, or consume me. In trying
to do "big" things, I'd get so caught-up in the work that
friends, play, family time and even my health took a back-
seat. Not good!
On the other hand, playing small never excited me. Small
tasks and little dreams always seemed like "house-keeping"
or chores that I should take care of "someday when I have
free time." They didn't inspire me. And I got good at
procrastination.
In my experience over the years, I've learned that success requires very
specific kinds of goals, goals that are big enough to
challenge the imagination, important enough to lift the
spirit, and goals that have lots of small, practical
stepping-stones. I've learned that quitting time Friday
afternoon takes on a whole new richness if I've actually
gotten something important done that week!
And in addition to the small stepping-stones, success
requires slightly bigger steps that can be done this month,
this summer or by my birthday. Some things can't be done by
5:00 o'clock Friday, but they can be done in six weeks or
in 90 days. The story says God created the universe in six
days. I'm not nearly that good, but once, 
I learned that you actually can move a small mountain in
about ten weeks, and I thought that was a pretty good
start.
If you want to change your life, set goals that are big
enough to excite you. Have adequate, meaningful and
specific REASONS to get it done. Then, break it into do-
able pieces, and get to work. Let's get something done by
5:00 o'clock Friday! And let's see really significant
progress by December.
Those are the "big" keys to success that I've learned in
the past few decades. I pass them along in the hope they'll
serve you as well as they've served me.
And here's another piece: Success is built on optimism.
Success requires an incredible, unshakeable belief that you
can and will achieve your stated outcome. I'm concerned
that optimism may be in short supply right now. Whether
it's the economy, world chaos, or too many distractions, my
friends and clients don't seem as optimistic and determined
as they were a few years ago.
Whatever the reason, I've noted that the "do-ers" retain an
extraordinary faith that they can and will achieve their
goals. You should, too.
And lastly, success always requires a plan and follow-
through. Whether the goal is personal or professional,
world-changing or a simple family outing, you'll need a
plan or budget, and the ability to get up in the morning,
get to work, and stick-to-it all day long. I think most
everyone knows that, but it bears repeating. We all get
lazy, distracted or stressed and we forget. Success
requires that we--not someone else or "luck" or chance but
YOU--change things. You have to build something, move the
furniture, change your habits, or start something!
There's no way around that part. The BIG pieces for success
are a clear and compelling goal, paired with clear and
compelling reasons why you MUST achieve it, and specific
stepping-stones to get where you want to go. Unquenchable
optimism provides the fire; a good plan and daily follow-
through get you to your destination.
At least, that's what I've observed over the years. I
recommend it!

HOW TO SET CAREER OBJECTIVES & ACHIEVE CAREER GOALS

Many people find that the pressures of juggling with work, family and everyday life means that our career goals and career plans are more difficult to achieve than we had hoped. Well-intended resolutions such as setting up new career objectives are soon given up. However, when goals aren’t achieved many of us can feel useless and frustrated. This is particularly so if we are giving up on our career goals for a better job. This drains our energy and limits our potential. What I have observed, whilst working with organizations and people going through change is that everyone’s approach to handling change is very different to anyone else’s.
The key to greater success in setting career objectives is having a better understanding of where you’re regularly stuck, and apply new steps at these stages in the cycle to achieve what you truly want in your career. Have a look at the cycle of change. What stage are your career goals at?
Career Goal Awareness Stage
This is the starting point for any change or goal. First there is awareness of dissatisfaction or a new need in your life. Think about the simple need to have a drink. You might feel a little thirsty but can you ignore it? Perhaps for a while if you’re busy. Eventually though you get a headache and can’t concentrate until getting a drink becomes the most important thing you must do, until your thirst is quenched. It is the same with setting career objectives. The more dissatisfied you are in your current career and the stronger your need for change the more compelled you will be to act. You might feel that you want to a promotion or a more challenging job, but if you feel fairly comfortable where you are, there won’t be sufficient motivation to energize change and achieve a career goal.
1. Remove the career goal ‘shoulds’. Remove all the resolutions that are being driven by your family or friends. These are the sort of goals you feel you should be doing. For example, ‘I should get another job’. ‘I should get paid more for the job I do’. All these might be well-meaning goals but unless they are your goals then you’re not at the awareness stage of change with these goals. What this means is that any positive results are going to be very unlikely.
Career Goal Mobilization Stage
This is the stage where you feel the most excited and energized for what you are about to do, and you’ll be thinking about all your options and options and ideas. If you start off really excited about a new goal and then all that motivation and energy fizzles before you have made any real progress, the chances are you’re being over ambitious. Too much excitement can color our judgment on our choices and direction. Equally, if you’re one of those people who say ‘I don’t want to get too excited in case it doesn’t happen’, then you could be draining the energy from the project before you’ve had a chance to create it. You need to mobilize energy to create change.
2. Remove unrealistic career goal options. You can make progress if you’re making unrealistic demands on yourself. Break down your career goal into smaller steps which can be achieved more easily. This will help create more confidence and a belief that you can achieve what you really want to.
3. Find a career supporter. Try to find someone in your circle of contacts at home or at work who will support and encourage you in achieving your career goals. If not, join a related self-help group or find a career mentor who can help you to focus on the positive changes, however small. Their excitement can help you keep up your momentum.
Career Setting – Goal Action Stage
This is when you start to experiment with different types of actions to achieve your career goals. So many resolutions are lost at this stage when the reality of achieving the goal becomes clear. It is often much harder and takes longer to achieve than first thought. If you are getting stuck at this stage the chances are that you’re being too much of a perfectionist and expecting to get great results all the time. It’s easy then to feel demoralized and give up too soon. To achieve satisfaction requires lots of action!
4. Experiment & be flexible with your career goals. Be prepared to try many different ways to achieve your goals. Ask yourself how many different options can you try to make this happen. View these approaches as experiments to be carried out rather than solutions. Inevitably some approaches will work better than others. Thomas Edison, the renowned electric light inventor was supposedly asked by a New York Times Reporter, “How does it feel to fail seven hundred times”. He answered that “I have not failed seven hundred times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving that those seven hundred ways will not work.”
5. Face your career fears. Sometimes we give up very quickly not because our resolutions are really impossible to achieve but because we feel scared of trying to achieve them. It is easy to procrastinate and let day-to-day pressures get in the way of following our dreams. This is why some of the most fundamental life changes such as starting a new business or a new career are only made when change is forced upon us, such as following a divorce or redundancy.
6. Be kind to yourself. We are often harder on ourselves than we would be with our friends. Try and reframe your results so that there is no such thing a failure or mistake, just a need for new approaches. Okay, it can be scary but looking for failure is not going to help. For example, an unemployed man has applied unsuccessfully for over a hundred jobs! He now works actively as a volunteer three days a week, and has been on a training course to upgrade his skills. He could panic and give up. But his proactive approach means that he is increasing his chance of finding suitable paid work. It’s essential to find alternative options to improve your chances of success.
7. If it’s not working do something else. If something isn’t working there is a tendency to look for something or someone to blame. ‘I haven’t got the new job I wanted because of the children’. If you want to achieve something new in your life you will need to take responsibility for where you are, and then try to take some small steps to do something different.
Career Setting Satisfaction & Career Goal Celebration Stage
This is the stage when the project or goal is completed and satisfaction is reached. If you are the sort of person who has many half finished projects still open waiting to be completed then you probably feel that your career goals never get completed. However, you might have achieved more of your career goal than you think. Many of us have the tendency to look at what hasn’t been achieved rather than savoring the pleasure of what has. For example, ‘I’ve got a new job but at a lower salary than I wanted’ It is also very British to talk-down our achievements. None of us want to be seen to ‘be a show off’ but celebrations are good for our morale, confidence and give closure to projects which help us to achieve new dreams.
8. Appreciate completion of career goals. Appreciate how far you’ve come so far. It may not have been exactly what you had in mind when you started out, but good enough might be all that is needed now. It’s OK for your goal to change and develop over time.
9. Celebrate your career successes. A desire for perfectionism can get in the way of celebrating your achievements. Identify what you’ve achieved and find ways to celebrate your success regularly. A bottle of champagne, a meal out or a trip out can do wonders for your self-esteem and happiness. Go for it and enjoy.