Truth
hurts, but someone has to say it. Your life is what you make of it and the only
person who can help you is yourself. If you’re ready to take personal
responsibility and improve your life, I invite you to apply these seven harsh
truths today.
1. No One Is Going to Fix You
If
you are waiting for a knight in shining armour to gallop into your life and
heal your broken heart, you will be waiting forever. The only person who can
help you is yourself. Be happy for the other people in your life, but do not
become dependent on them for happiness unlike you like to be on a never-ending
emotional roller-coaster that is far beyond the realm of your control. Are you
alone? No, far from it. But no one is going to fix you, so it is in your best
interest to take personal responsibility for your own life. When you do that,
you’ll discover you are more powerful than you ever thought possible.
2. Life Will Never Be Perfect
If
you are waiting for the “right” time to do something — pursue self-employment,
begin a fitness plan, dive into the dating pool, or move to a new town — you’re
going to be waiting forever. There is no such thing as a “right” time to do
anything. This reaction is based on your fear-of-change, plain and simple. If
you keep waiting for that mysterious “perfect time to act” (please tell me,
when have you ever experienced such a thing?), this means you will never
actually have to take action and confront your fear. Do the
scary thing. You will be so glad you did.
3. You Might Fail (a Lot)
If
you attempt to achieve an ambitious new goal, then it is possible that you will
fall on your face while pursuing said goal. Welcome to reality. It’s time to
change your thinking about failure. It is not a big, bad thing that you should
be frightened of. Failure is a learning opportunity and nothing more. If
successful people quit pursuing their goal after failing the first time they
tried something new, then there would be approximately zero successful people
ever. There is no such thing as a “hole-in-one” in life. Do you want to know
how many times I’ve failed? Over a hundred. The only reason I’ve managed to
accomplish anything is because I am a firm believer in continuous improvement.
If you fail in something, distance from the event for a day or two, because
agonizing over the problem will not make it go away (and will make it a lot
worse). Read a good book, catch up with some friends you haven’t seen in a
long time, or go on a nature hike. You will be able to look at the issue with a
fresh perspective. After you have done that, ask yourself: “Why didn’t this
work out and how can I do better next time?” This process very
well could repeat itself several times depending on the nature of your goal,
but if you keep making a firm commitment to continuously improve yourself, you
will develop so much that the only option left is success. Consistent hustle
always wins.
4. The Past Is Already Written
Have
you ever made a mistake so monumental that you wish you could go back in time
and do it all over again? Join the club. It’s called being human. I know you
might feel immense regret, but beating yourself up over something that is
already done serves no purpose. Shift your attention to the present, where you
can take control of your life and move forward into a better future.
5. Tomorrow Is Not Guaranteed
Steve
Jobs said it best, so I’m going to defer to him for this harsh truth:
“Remembering
that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help
me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external
expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things
just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.”
The
next time you catch yourself playing the “I will do it tomorrow” game, remember
that tomorrow is not guaranteed. Traffic accidents, heart attacks, and acts of
violence do happen. Live in the present and take action today, because that is
where progress happens.
6. Just Because You’re “Busy” Doesn’t Mean You’re
Accomplishing Something
If
you like to brag about how great you are at multitasking, stop it, because you
are only kidding yourself. Changing tasks without rhyme or reason is wasting
your productivity, stressing you out, and possibly causing you to make
mistakes. It will probably take you longer to complete two tasks that you are
switching back-and-forth between than it would to complete each one separately.
If you want to save time, instead of multitasking, try grouping similar tasks
together. Have a bunch of e-mails you need to send? Do them all at once. Have
an article or essay you need to write? Get it done before moving onto anything
else. Different tasks require different mind-sets, so focus on one thing at a
time. Being “busy” does not guarantee that you are doing something useful (it
probably just means you are doing a lot of things badly).
7. You Have More Time Than You Think You Do
You
should eliminate the phrase, “I don’t have the time,” from your vocabulary,
because it is profoundly untrue. There are 168 hours every week. Let that sink
in for a moment. That is a monumental amount of time. Where
could it possibly go? The average person spends 4.09 hours on leisure
activities per day according to a survey by the Bureau of Labour Statistics
Most of that time, 2.8 hours per day, is devoted to the television. I don’t
know about you, but I don’t think watching TV does much to help me grow as a
person. You could spend that time creating art that adds value to the world,
reading books that will help you improve your life, or exercising for a better
body and health. The next time you say you “don’t have the time,” change your
wording to say “it isn’t a priority.” No time to exercise? Your fitness isn’t a
priority. No time to prepare healthy meals at home? Your health isn’t a
priority. No time to do something nice for the love of your life? Your
relationship isn’t a priority. It’s harsh, but it’s true. How you spend your
time is a choice, so spend it wisely.
I
know truth hurts, but someone had to say it. If you want to accept personal
responsibility and build the life that you dream of having, I invite you to
apply these seven harsh truths to improve your life today. Now I want to know
what you think: are there any I hope these seven harsh truths help you improve
your life.
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