Procrastination
– probably the number one cause for people to be disorganized, for not
achieving what they want, for not being the best they could be. What people
don’t realize, however, you only need the right tools to conquer it.
Procrastination
is a little bit like an addiction, once you suffer from it you have got
to battle it and keep on top of it for the rest of your life. It is so easy to
slip back. But also, like any other addiction,
it can be overcome.
And now,
let’s brush away the reasons why you might be procrastinating and we will
basically leave you with no excuse to simply get on with it.
The
Number One Reason:
"I
haven't got the time right now."
This is
the most popular excuse for procrastinators. The thing is you are probably
right. You have not got the whole block of time it takes to tackle the spare
room, or the whole of the ironing pile, or the complete reorganization of the
kitchen. BUT, and there's a good reason for the capital letters, you have got
10 minutes, or maybe even 20 or 30. And that is all it takes to make a start.
Start by sorting through one box, ironing 10 or 20 items, tackling one single
drawer. And if you do that every day, or maybe even twice a day if motivation
strikes and time allows then you will realize that you are making slow but
steady progress.
A Chinese
proverb states: Even the longest journey starts with one single step. And this
is exactly how you will be able to overcome the lurking monster that is
procrastination.
If you
find yourself still procrastinating, then there must be other, deeper rooted
reasons behind that. These possible other reasons fall into two categories,
ones concerning the project itself, the others your personality style.
First,
let's look at the project itself. The project might be perceived as
1.
Threatening
2. Too difficult
3. Boring
4. Impossible to finish
5. Waste of time
2. Too difficult
3. Boring
4. Impossible to finish
5. Waste of time
1. If a
project or the outcome of the project is perceived as threatening, thoughts
like "I'm in trouble if I get this wrong" might be going through your
head. In this case a natural reaction is not to start the project at all or not
to progress beyond a certain point so as to avoid failure. In cases like this
make sure you have all the facts right.
Ask
questions:
"What
is the worst thing that could happen - realistically?" And how likely is
this to happen? - You will probably realize that things are never as bad as
they seem.
“What
exactly do I need to do to get it right?” - Once you know exactly what to do
and how to do it, you have already won.
“Have I
got all the skills and abilities to do this project?” - If the question is yes,
great! If it is no, then you should probably consider to get someone to help or
delegate the task itself.
2. If you
think a project is too difficult, you might never start it. Sit down and thing
about what is difficult. Are you just unsure of how to start and how to break
the project into smaller manageable chunks? Find an expert on the subject,
someone who has done a similar project before and ask for help.
3. If you
think a project is boring, try and make it more interesting, Set yourself a
challenge. See how much you can achieve in a certain amount of time. And then
for the next chunk, see if you can beat your previous record. Or put some of
your favorite music on while you work. If the project allows (like a mountain
of ironing, or shredding) watch TV while you work.
4. If you
think a project is impossible to finish, there might be two reasons. Either
it's the type of project that literally never ends (like housework) or it is a
very large project. Again, breaking it up into smaller portions will help. Even
Mount Everest can be climbed by doing one step at a time! Set yourself a daily
target and you will be up and running in no time.
5.
Finally, if you consider the project a waste of time, re-evaluate it. Does it
really need to be done? If you are doing it to please someone else, and you see
absolutely no sense in it, try to find out why it is so important for the other
person. Or is it simply one of those jobs that need to be redone on a regular
basis like tidying up or ironing. Use one of the solutions from number 4 to get
the job done. Some jobs do seem to be a waste of time but we would sink into
crud and chaos if we didn't do them at all.
The
second set of reasons is to do with someone's personality. These could be
1.
Perfectionism
2. Thriving on adrenaline
3. Lack of self confidence
4. Internalized negatives
5. Externalize positives
2. Thriving on adrenaline
3. Lack of self confidence
4. Internalized negatives
5. Externalize positives
Let's
look at these hurdles to getting things done in detail, see what they are about
and how they manifest and what you can do about them.
1. A lot
of people have a perfectionist trait; some more, some less. "I can't start
this project until I have got everything I need and until the conditions are
absolutely perfect." This kind of mindset is fine if that perfect
condition is feasible and you have a good track record of starting and
finishing your projects. If you don't, then your perfectionism is probably an
excuse for not starting the project at all.
Turn it
around and ask yourself, what is the minimum I need for this project? Once
you've got that sorted, put a start date in your diary and get that project on
the road.
2.
"I work better under pressure." We all know people like that and we
might have used that phrase ourselves. Again, there are two ways of dealing
with this.
Number
one, it's a good excuse not to start until the last possible moment, and it's
simply a way to put things off. Make life easier for yourself; and divide your
project into segments and do one each day until it's done.
Number
two, if you literally work better under pressure, and some of us do, then make
the project more challenging. Set mini-goals with a shorter deadline. This way
you keep yourself on your toes but are still making timely progress towards
your end goal.
Also, get
a project buddy. Tell someone about your project, and the deadline. Make
yourself accountable. And be sure that certain someone is a person who will
check up on you, how well you are progressing and make a pact that you will be
honest with them. Nothing gets the adrenaline flowing like knowing that someone
is about to check up on you and you really don’t want to say that you have not
even started.
3. If you
suffer from a lack of self confidence and feel that you simply can't
tackle the project try one of these options. Find out what the first thing is
you need to do to start the project, the very first action that needs doing
before anything else can be done. Do that, then find out the next step and so
on. Also, divide the project into smaller chunks. Smaller bites are easier to
digest, the same goes for project size. If you are unsure of how to do this,
find someone who has done a similar project before and ask for advice. That way
you get some expert help and you will soon be on the way to completing the once
daunting task.
4. Internalizing negatives means that you always look for faults within yourself.
If you do this, you will quite easily come up with negative emotions, such as
"I'm lazy that's why I don't get things done" or "I'm stupid
that's why I don't know where to start". First of all, I can assure you
that none of this is true. You are neither lazy nor stupid or anything else of
that kind. You might lack motivation or not be an expert on a particular
subject but you can easily do something about that.
Why don't
you think of a treat that you reward yourself with, once you have completed the
first part of the task and then keep rewarding yourself for every bit that you
achieve until the project is completed. And just as with lack of self
confidence, there is no shame in asking people for help and advice
on how to tackle a particular project. We don't all have to reinvent the wheel
and most people are very happy to share their skills and knowledge.
5. Externalized positives are usually the reverse side of the same coin as internalized negatives. It means that you attribute anything positive that you
do to outside influences and not to your skills and abilities, such as "I
was lucky last time and it was easy. I could never do that again." It is
usually a sign of lack of self confidence.
Achieving
something has most often nothing to do with luck. It is more likely to be the
result of hard work and skill. Luck is good for gambling and that's about it.
And when you found something easy then you had the skills and talent to do it
and nothing less. Don't hide your light under a bush - as the saying goes and
be proud of your achievements - especially when it comes to what you tell
yourself. We are usually our own worst critics and forget to be our own strongest
supporters.
Any more
excuses? Or did we cover them all and showed you how to conquer them? So what’s
stopping you now?
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