“My dream is lost.” Not only has
this thought crossed the minds of many, it might be going through your mind
right now. Someone distracted you from your goals, and now, for whatever
reason, your hopes and aspirations are distant and untraceable. There are times
when dreams must be put on the back burner, but you should never let others
sidetrack you permanently from your dreams.
“Do
not let the behaviors of others destroy your inner peace”
So once said the wise Dalai Lama.
Unfortunately, we live in an age where people do things for various reasons,
not all of them nice. Emotions are still inconceivable in many ways. Jealousy,
envy, anger, greed, and lust drive people to hurt others for the sake of their
own advancement. Sometimes, that is exactly why others try to distract you from
reaching your goals. They are angry you have gotten so far. Or they are jealous
you are doing better than they are.
Yet, seeing that these outbursts and
harmful acts are another individual’s method of self-preservation, as messed up
as it may be, you can take the higher road. Stay away from toxic relationships.
If you are provoked and look away, remember to reclaim the truth of who you are
immediately. First and foremost, never lose sight of your inner light.
Mind
your beeswax
Apart from others behaving in ways
that disrupt your equanimity, we are all sometimes guilty of sticking our noses
in places where it does not belong. When you become overly curious about
someone else’s issues, you are opening yourself up to some serious
distractions.
For example, you might decide to
help out a friend that was kicked out by a significant other and is now
horribly depressed. Soon you find yourself wrapped up in responsibilities that
do nothing to help your situation, but you feel obligated to help out because
of friendship.
When others rely on us too much, we
get that dragged down feeling. We start to lose sight of what drives us and
instead tune into what drives everyone else. That is why you have to be selfish
sometimes. Look after your own wellness first before extending a helping hand
to others.
Do
what is right by you
Other people like to turn you away
from your goals by spouting off what worked for them. Advice is nice once in
awhile, but that is all it is. Advice is a wise observation or exchange of
gained knowledge from someone with previous experience. But what worked for
them might not work for you.
If someone keeps telling you how to
live your life according to how they live theirs, only one result is certain.
You will end up living a carbon copy of their life. Someone who is not out to
sidetrack you from your dreams will always make it clear that they are merely
offering an alternative but it might not be for you. Stick with those people,
not the ones who say what you should and should not do.
Life
is too short
And you will never be able to please
everybody. Let me use myself as an example here. When I was in high school, my
idea of getting through life was making those I looked up to (for better or
worse) proud of my decisions. I set out to please their ideals of the perfect
daughter or friend. I tried to be everything they wanted.
However, deep inside my heart, I
knew it was not what I wanted. Though my move was rather risky – with me moving
halfway across the globe – the separation taught me something. Life is too
short to not enjoy every moment living in pursuit of your dreams.
Will it be difficult? Yes. Will
there be times when you feel like giving up? Of course. But there is a beauty
in living according to the beat of your heart. Do not let others use their
opinions to remodel your life as their own, squelch off you, or sidetrack you
from accomplishing goals with negativity.
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