Monday, January 30, 2017

ACHIEVE MORE IN 2017

So, the New Year is already 8% over. We're four weeks, or
29 days, or about 700 hours into this new thing. What do
you have to show for it?
"As a country, I think we've accomplished quite a lot. We've
installed a new President and a new Congress. We've
completed the football play-offs, leaving just the Super
Bowl to go. The employees of one small business I coach
have, as of Friday, lost a total of 193 pounds in 27 days.
And one ambitious entrepreneur I hope to work with in the
future has registered her DBA, opened her business checking
account and made her first $744 in sales. She's 9, "almost
10" years old", says Philip Humbert.
So, what do you have to show for 8% of your brand new year?
As long-time subscribers know, I love goals! Defining and
setting goals is one of the most important things anyone
can do. They predict the future, organize our time, focus
our thoughts, and create our destiny. In many ways, our
goals tells us who we are, what we value, and how we spend
our time.
But goals without daily action are mere pipe-dreams.
They're fun. They can be sexy and dynamic and energizing,
but sitting on a piece of paper, they're just words without
power. Goals without commitment, passion and action, are
just a movie we play in our heads.
While goals are amazing and wonderful, they are always in
the future. They are things we are "going to do." They have
completion dates anywhere from a few days to several years
down the road. And because of that, goals are subject to
change. They are subject to procrastination, to new ideas,
to outside influences. Over time, we may change our minds
or discover whole new possibilities. Goals are powerful;
they can also be ephemeral.
And yet, we all know instinctively that the power to
transform our lives is in our hands. More bluntly, it's in
our "to do" lists.  If I were forced to choose between
someone with detailed, written goals but only a vague sense
of their daily schedule, and someone with vague or
disorganized goals but a clear, vital sense of activities
for the day, I'd bet on the to-do list. Some people are too
busy getting things done to define their goals for a year,
or a lifetime.
Don't get me wrong. I start every morning writing in my
journal, reviewing my goals and values and priorities in
life. I love that and recommend it! It brings me peace and
I think it brings me power. Try it and see if it works for
you.
But I also respect folks who have no time for that! They
have kids to get dressed and off to school. They have a
train to catch, people to call, decisions to make, meetings
to attend, and stuff to get done. Sit and ponder goals? You
gotta be kidding me!
If you can, set goals for at least a year in advance.
Goals, combined with a plan, a calendar and a budget will
change your world faster and  more powerfully than you
might imagine. Do it!
But if you can't, or won't, or just don't want to, at least
use daily lists. Decide what time you will get up tomorrow.
Decide whether or not you'll eat breakfast. Decide the
three most important tasks you'll complete. Decide how you
will use your day!
Then, stick to your plan. Live YOUR life. Don't let other
people, chance or random impulses define your life. You
decide. This is your life. At the end of every day, be
proud to say, "I did it my way!"
And, for goodness sake, don't try to do it all by yourself!
As a Coach, I know the importance of partners and team
members. I know the vital role that feedback, experience
and advice bring to your success. Whether it's your spouse,
a co-worker or a friend, be accountable to someone. You
need (and deserve!) great cheerleaders!
This year, give yourself every chance for success. Review
the past four weeks. If you like what you've accomplished,
celebrate! But if you haven't used the first 8% of this new
year to your advantage, change something!
Whether the key to your success is a personal coach, or
better organization, make the investment in 2017. If you
need clearer goals, better plans, an accountability
partner, or more detailed daily to-do lists, do what needs
to be done! This is your life. Make it a great one! Settle
for nothing less.

Friday, January 27, 2017

7 HARSH TRUTHS THAT WILL IMPROVE YOUR LIFE


Truth hurts, but someone has to say it. Your life is what you make of it and the only person who can help you is yourself. If you’re ready to take personal responsibility and improve your life, I invite you to apply these seven harsh truths today.
1. No One Is Going to Fix You
If you are waiting for a knight in shining armour to gallop into your life and heal your broken heart, you will be waiting forever. The only person who can help you is yourself. Be happy for the other people in your life, but do not become dependent on them for happiness unlike you like to be on a never-ending emotional roller-coaster that is far beyond the realm of your control. Are you alone? No, far from it. But no one is going to fix you, so it is in your best interest to take personal responsibility for your own life. When you do that, you’ll discover you are more powerful than you ever thought possible.
2. Life Will Never Be Perfect
If you are waiting for the “right” time to do something — pursue self-employment, begin a fitness plan, dive into the dating pool, or move to a new town — you’re going to be waiting forever. There is no such thing as a “right” time to do anything. This reaction is based on your fear-of-change, plain and simple. If you keep waiting for that mysterious “perfect time to act” (please tell me, when have you ever experienced such a thing?), this means you will never actually have to take action and confront your fear.  Do the scary thing. You will be so glad you did.
3. You Might Fail (a Lot)
If you attempt to achieve an ambitious new goal, then it is possible that you will fall on your face while pursuing said goal. Welcome to reality. It’s time to change your thinking about failure. It is not a big, bad thing that you should be frightened of. Failure is a learning opportunity and nothing more. If successful people quit pursuing their goal after failing the first time they tried something new, then there would be approximately zero successful people ever. There is no such thing as a “hole-in-one” in life. Do you want to know how many times I’ve failed? Over a hundred. The only reason I’ve managed to accomplish anything is because I am a firm believer in continuous improvement. If you fail in something, distance from the event for a day or two, because agonizing over the problem will not make it go away (and will make it a lot worse). Read a good book, catch up with some friends you haven’t seen in a long time, or go on a nature hike. You will be able to look at the issue with a fresh perspective. After you have done that, ask yourself: “Why didn’t this work out and how can I do better next time?”  This process very well could repeat itself several times depending on the nature of your goal, but if you keep making a firm commitment to continuously improve yourself, you will develop so much that the only option left is success. Consistent hustle always wins.
4. The Past Is Already Written
Have you ever made a mistake so monumental that you wish you could go back in time and do it all over again? Join the club. It’s called being human. I know you might feel immense regret, but beating yourself up over something that is already done serves no purpose. Shift your attention to the present, where you can take control of your life and move forward into a better future.



5. Tomorrow Is Not Guaranteed 
Steve Jobs said it best, so I’m going to defer to him for this harsh truth:
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything – all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.”
The next time you catch yourself playing the “I will do it tomorrow” game, remember that tomorrow is not guaranteed. Traffic accidents, heart attacks, and acts of violence do happen. Live in the present and take action today, because that is where progress happens.
6. Just Because You’re “Busy” Doesn’t Mean You’re Accomplishing Something
If you like to brag about how great you are at multitasking, stop it, because you are only kidding yourself. Changing tasks without rhyme or reason is wasting your productivity, stressing you out, and possibly causing you to make mistakes. It will probably take you longer to complete two tasks that you are switching back-and-forth between than it would to complete each one separately. If you want to save time, instead of multitasking, try grouping similar tasks together. Have a bunch of e-mails you need to send? Do them all at once. Have an article or essay you need to write? Get it done before moving onto anything else. Different tasks require different mind-sets, so focus on one thing at a time. Being “busy” does not guarantee that you are doing something useful (it probably just means you are doing a lot of things badly).
7. You Have More Time Than You Think You Do
You should eliminate the phrase, “I don’t have the time,” from your vocabulary, because it is profoundly untrue. There are 168 hours every week. Let that sink in for a moment. That is a monumental amount of time. Where could it possibly go? The average person spends 4.09 hours on leisure activities per day according to a survey by the Bureau of Labour Statistics Most of that time, 2.8 hours per day, is devoted to the television. I don’t know about you, but I don’t think watching TV does much to help me grow as a person. You could spend that time creating art that adds value to the world, reading books that will help you improve your life, or exercising for a better body and health. The next time you say you “don’t have the time,” change your wording to say “it isn’t a priority.” No time to exercise? Your fitness isn’t a priority. No time to prepare healthy meals at home? Your health isn’t a priority. No time to do something nice for the love of your life? Your relationship isn’t a priority. It’s harsh, but it’s true. How you spend your time is a choice, so spend it wisely.
I know truth hurts, but someone had to say it. If you want to accept personal responsibility and build the life that you dream of having, I invite you to apply these seven harsh truths to improve your life today. Now I want to know what you think: are there any I hope these seven harsh truths help you improve your life.

Wednesday, January 25, 2017

NETWORKING FOR FUN AND PROFIT

There's an old saying that "it's who you know that counts,"
and for better or worse, it's often true.
Yes, there is a cynical aspect to the phrase, referring to
favoritism that is unfortunate. More often, however, people
get the referral or the promotion precisely because (in a
positive sense) of "who they know." Knowing and liking
someone does make a difference.
When it comes to networking, however, I've noticed two
unfortunate patterns that are generally NOT helpful:
First is the person (to be honest, it's usually a male) who
views networking as some strange contest to see who can
trade the most business cards in the shortest period of
time. There's a frantic, phony energy that is a huge turn-
off. Their quick handshake, exaggerated smile and exchange
of business cards is usually a waste of time.
The second is the person who attends networking functions
but fails to connect in a meaningful way. Often they spend
the entire time chatting with a friend, and leave without
meeting anyone new, or making any lasting impressions.
Effective networking means connecting with people in an
honest, sincere way that says you would like to help them
if you can, and would appreciate the other person's support
in exchange.
Get to know people. Call them up, go to lunch, and if
appropriate, certainly exchange business cards! But what
you're looking for is a relationship. Get to know a few
people well, rather than collecting dozens of cards from
strangers. Follow-up with a phone call to touch base. And
for goodness sake, if you can, be sure to send some
business to the other person. Nothing will grow your own
referral business like the gratitude of people who have
benefited from your genuine support.