What scares you?
There are many fears that interfere with our happiness. We fear:
Failing brings about feelings of disappointment, frustration, regret, and shame. The most common reaction when you have fear of failure is having the attitude of, “I can’t, I can’t.”
Nobody wants to fail. But having a fear of it will cause you to become so preoccupied with avoiding failure that it overrides your motivation to succeed. If you have a fear of any of the things listed above, what you’re really afraid of is failure.
And this fear will only paralyze action, making you play it safe all the time and settling for far less than you are truly capable of having.
The second major fear that holds you back from success is the fear of rejection.
All fears are learned. No one is born with fears. We learn the fear of rejection when our parents make their love conditional upon our behavior. If we do what pleases them, they give us love and approval. If we do something they don’t like, they withdraw their love and approval, which we interpret as rejection.
As adults, this conditional love causes us to become preoccupied with the opinions of others. We may have developed Type A behavior where we are hostile, suspicious, and obsessed with performance to some undetermined high standard.
The most common attitude with the fear of rejection is, “I have to, I have to,” and it is associated with the feeling that “I have to work harder and accomplish more in order to please the boss” or anyone with authority over you who has become a “surrogate parent.”
Overcome these two major fears and fuel your success with courage, character, and self-esteem.
The antidote to fear is actually love, self-love, and self-respect. Acting with courage in a fearful situation is simply a technique that boosts our regard for ourselves to such a degree that our fears subside and lose their ability to affect our behavior and our decisions.
As it happens, it is not the experience of failure or rejection that holds you back. You have failed and been rejected countless times in life and it hasn’t done you any permanent damage. So resolve today to not let this terrible emotion undermine your happiness and hold you back anymore.
Increase your self-esteem and self-confidence in 2 steps:
"Failure is a prerequisite for great success. If you want to succeed faster, double your rate of failure."
There are many fears that interfere with our happiness. We fear:
- Loss of of love
- Loss of job and financial security
- Embarrassment or ridicule
- Criticism of any kind
- Loss of respect
Failing brings about feelings of disappointment, frustration, regret, and shame. The most common reaction when you have fear of failure is having the attitude of, “I can’t, I can’t.”
Nobody wants to fail. But having a fear of it will cause you to become so preoccupied with avoiding failure that it overrides your motivation to succeed. If you have a fear of any of the things listed above, what you’re really afraid of is failure.
And this fear will only paralyze action, making you play it safe all the time and settling for far less than you are truly capable of having.
The second major fear that holds you back from success is the fear of rejection.
All fears are learned. No one is born with fears. We learn the fear of rejection when our parents make their love conditional upon our behavior. If we do what pleases them, they give us love and approval. If we do something they don’t like, they withdraw their love and approval, which we interpret as rejection.
As adults, this conditional love causes us to become preoccupied with the opinions of others. We may have developed Type A behavior where we are hostile, suspicious, and obsessed with performance to some undetermined high standard.
The most common attitude with the fear of rejection is, “I have to, I have to,” and it is associated with the feeling that “I have to work harder and accomplish more in order to please the boss” or anyone with authority over you who has become a “surrogate parent.”
Overcome these two major fears and fuel your success with courage, character, and self-esteem.
The antidote to fear is actually love, self-love, and self-respect. Acting with courage in a fearful situation is simply a technique that boosts our regard for ourselves to such a degree that our fears subside and lose their ability to affect our behavior and our decisions.
As it happens, it is not the experience of failure or rejection that holds you back. You have failed and been rejected countless times in life and it hasn’t done you any permanent damage. So resolve today to not let this terrible emotion undermine your happiness and hold you back anymore.
Increase your self-esteem and self-confidence in 2 steps:
- Realize and accept you can do anything you put your mind to. Repeat
the words, “I can do it! I can do it!” whenever you feel afraid for any
reason.
- Continually think of yourself as a valuable and important person. Remember, temporary failure is the way you learn how to succeed.
"Failure is a prerequisite for great success. If you want to succeed faster, double your rate of failure."
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